“The height of cultivation always runs towards simplicity”
I watched this fantastic YouTube video called “Think Deeply About Simple Things’ where a mathematics professor/teacher describes how magic appears when we question the simple.
He gives the example of a circle. The simplest shape. In one mindset, we can just accept it – “It’s a circle, its simple”
But what if we thought more deeply about it?
How many dimensions is it in? – 2. How would it look like in 3D – a sphere. What about 4D? Why is ‘pi’ the way it is, and how did it emerge from something as basic as the circle.
Another example- we all accept the sky is blue. But… why? Off the top of my head, it’s got to do with light refraction. But then why does light refract? And on and on.
Ultimately he boils it down to asking two main questions
Why —- Why —- Why
Like your 4 year old nephew, constantly question everything. Underneath your why, there is always another why. It leads to deeper thinking. Ask why about simple things. We have an inbuilt curiosity that we tend to squash as we get older, because ‘who has time to think about this’. This is tragic. Because the more you learn and question, the more you realise ‘how little we know’. It grants a level of humility. This leads to awe, as you realise how small ‘you’ are.
What if …
This is asking hypothetical ‘what if’s’. For example, what if I imagined myself chasing a beam of light? This is of course one of Einsteins ‘gedanken’ – thought experiments. One that led to his understanding of the theory of relativity.
In thinking about consciousness. We can ask what it is. Why it arises etc. But we can take thought experiments too. Suppose we were to construct a conscious entity, atom by atom- like a Lego set. At which atom, would you suddenly become conscious. When would consciousness arise in that system?
This leads you to interesting hypotheses.
Thought experiments allow us different perspectives on problems, because the truth is that ‘reality’ and science tends to violently violate our intuitions. For example, that we are at the centre of the universe, violated by the copernican revolution that we are not even at the centre of our solar system.
’Hard’ things are not hard
There is this idea that complex maths or science is ‘hard’.
It is a structure. A building that one has to construct from simpler concepts. But you have to understand the simple concepts first, before you can layer on them, and learn ones that require you to understand previous concepts.
For example to understand what mitochondria is, you have to understand a layer below that ‘what a cell is’. Then you have to understand what a cell wall is, or what ATP production is, then you need to understand what a molecule is, what atoms are Etc etc. It’s interlinked and interdependent. And you can go deeper and deeper into these concepts.
But It’s all just concepts layered on top of each other.
In the video he gives the example of 1+1. We can all do this. But what about 1+ 1/2.
If we haven’t been exposed to fractions, this seems like a ‘hard’ task. But if we understand what fractions are, then suddenly its just a problem. Neither hard nor easy.
What about 1+ 1/2 ^2
Again, the same, if you don’t know what square number is, then you cannot do this. It is simply concepts stacked on top of each other.
A problem in school is that students all move at the same pace. If one day, you miss a concept, or don’t understand it, often the teacher does not come and explain it to you. Then the next lesson, you are completely lost because you didn’t understand the previous concept. People who are ‘bad’ at maths just missed a concept, then they couldn’t progress any further. If only it was said in a different way, or expressed in a different medium, it would have ‘clicked’.
Thank God for YouTube. If you don’t understand something, you can go at your own pace on YouTube. Some really smart kids are being brought up in this generation thanks to YouTube.
Simplicity in Daily Living
I intended for this essay, to be an exploration of simplicity in daily life too. I’ve found that by living life with less reliance on external factors, is incredibly peaceful. Less objects. More space. More time.
You need very little to survive and be content. Yet the hedonic treadmill means that we keep on desiring more and more.
The trick is to desire the basics and the simple things. These tend to be the most valuable things.
This quote on Twitter really succinctly summarises my thinking on this
“A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. These things cannot be bought – they must be earned”
Simplicity in Writing
I’ve wrote about this before. But I think the best writing is simple. If you can say it in fewer words, do that. (I struggle with this!)
There is a Chinese ‘curse’ that is translated as : “May you live in interesting times”. Interesting times are pivotal and have the potential to transform the cultural psyche of humanity. I want to explore a few predictions on what coronavirus could do for humanity. As well as my current thoughts on the topic
It’s Ok not to have an opinion
Everyone has something to say on COVID. Ironically, I’m now writing my opinion on COVID.
But amongst the deluge of information we are consuming, it is ok to say “I don’t know”. Because for 99% of humanity, this is the case. Most people are not epidemiologists or virologists.
I don’t know the repercussions of COVID. I don’t know how it will pan out for society and the economy. I don’t know how many lives will be lost.
At best all we have are models and predictions. But the ‘map is not the territory’. Reacting to changing information is the key. Obviously organisations should be thinking about this deeply, but at the individual level, there is only so much you can understand.
Acknowledging our limited understanding is crucial and finding some comfort in uncertainty can be valuable.
Information Overload and Misinformation
The 24/7 news cycle is something we’ve all become accustomed to. I usually don’t consume any news at all as I found it too distracting and often the most important news tends to find itself to me through others. However recently, Ive been sucked into reading about COVID, and I can’t stop. It really doesn’t add anything valuable.
Furthermore, there is spreading of misinformation on these online platforms, that is hard to avoid. From ’10 ways to boost your immune system’ to Charlatans peddling cures for financial gain.
I see this a lot of WhatsApp and Twitter. Some from doctors which is appalling.
The response is to treat information you read with skepticism, and to trust reputable sources only (e.g. WHO).
Black Swan Events
Taleb describes a black swan as an event that 1) is beyond normal expectations that is so rare that even the possibility that it might occur is unknown, 2) has a catastrophic impact when it does occur, and 3) is explained in hindsight as if it were actually predictable
Although, it doesn’t meet 1) – we definitely knew a pandemic was incoming at some point. This whole ordeal has made me think about Black Swan events.
You should reduce your exposure to negative Black Swans- for example by having savings etc. And try and increase exposure to positive Black Swans.
I need to sit and read Taleb’s books…
Quality Quarantine Time
To stop myself from being at the mercy of the YouTube algorithm even more than I currently am, I’ve been thinking about attention.
I haven’t been quarantined yet, but I’ve already made such a long list of skills I want to try and develop during this down time. But I’ll name a few to hold myself accountable when I check back in a few months
Calisthenics (since no gym!). Aim to work towards doing a muscle up and free standing handstands
Guitar : explore jazz standards and theory
Writing : try and write some more fiction and more on the blog. This is going well so far!
Reading : jump into Taleb’s work
Misc : Learn more about film photography. Limit tech usage. Wean myself to a sustainable dose of caffeine. Learn to juggle. Binge listen to ‘History on Fire’ podcast. Avoid getting busted by the police for going on 5+ walks a day.
Predictions on Impact
This is a bit of fun. Not to be taken seriously, but I can’t help speculating the impact it will have long term on humanity.
More emphasis on Science and Technology – increased funding
Distributed working : working from home will become a norm
Increased compensation for healthcare workers and scientists as the public opinion changes.
‘Telemedicine’ will become more integrated into the system
Global cooperation as this can be a demonstration that humanity can work towards a singular goal
Better preparation for future global pandemics and crises (Global warming, Nuclear war, Technological disruption)
There will be second order impacts that we won’t see coming. Maybe a spike in birth rates (or divorce) as people are at home. Maybe new hand-gel resistant bugs due to the widespread use of hand sanitiser. Don’t get me started on toilet paper stocks.
I don’t have much to say about Coronavirus, because I don’t really know much. But reading a lot of Sci-fi has given me an inbuilt optimism about humanity. We have the potential for so much good.
Currently, the hospital is eerily quiet. 300+ empty beds.
“If you wish to understand your mind, sit down and observe it”
I consider learning the skill of meditation to be the most important thing I’ve ever learnt in my life. By far.
I tend not to talk about it either, which I think is a common trait amongst meditators. Because it is experiential. Also esoteric as most people don’t go sit month long meditation retreats.
When people ask me about meditation, they tend to have a pre-convienced notion of what it is. That it involves some supernatural or irrational belief structure. That it involves growing out your hair, crossing your legs and ‘accessing your 9th Chakra’. “What do you even do. Are you sitting there just not thinking? “. “Are you chanting Om in an attempt to gain some sort of ‘enlightenment“. Worst one was a Christian girl who said, ‘Urh, I don’t want to join a cult”.
This isn’t helped by the new surge in the ‘self help meditation’ movement. The word has lost its meaning. Being used by the next guru to influence others, or sell copies of their book. ’To think positive thoughts’. Please.
First of all. I just want to say, I am through and through, a scientist. I am one of the biggest skeptics and abhor dogma and any claims that are unsupported. I caused a lot of trouble in my philosophy and ethics class, questioning from first principles. You can dismantle most dogma by asking ‘why’. My inherent disposition is one of doubt
And in my initial dive into Buddhist/Eastern philosophy, the first sentence I read was :
“Don’t blindly believe what I say. Don’t believe me because others convince you of my words. Don’t believe anything you see, read, or hear from others, whether of authority, religious teachers or texts. Don’t rely on logic alone, nor speculation.”
That piqued my interest. And down the rabbit hole I went.
The first thing is : meditation is a practice. It is like lifting weights or exercising in the gym. There is no authority. It is a simple set of exercises you do with your mind. It is radically scientific. Based on an epistemological stance of questioning entirely from first principles. Obviously there is religious muddying, where a lot of Eastern ‘Buddhists’ don’t even meditate. There are always attempts to institutionalise and solidify power.
But the practice itself is independent of any dogma. You don’t need to be a Buddhist or a Christian or a Hindu. Meditation is not ‘Buddhist’ insofar as the Laws of Physics are not ‘Christian’ (even though discovered by Christians) or Algebra is not Islamic (even though discovered by Muslims).
You don’t need to ‘believe’ in anything.
It is a set of mental exercises that produce lasting changes in the brain.
One of the initial instructions is so basic, that is is laughable. “ Just sit and pay attention to your own breath”
So you sit down and you try to pay attention. Ok. Its going well. 5 seconds in. Wow, I am really doing it. This is great, I wonder what Jess would think of this, I think she would flip out. I don’t really like her to be honest, I wonder if she likes me. What did I have for lunch today. Salmon. Salman Rushdie is such a great author…
And you are lost. Without training, this is how one spends their entire life. Without even realising it.
I remember I couldn’t even focus on the breath for 2 seconds. The worst part was realising that I had thought I was paying attention to my thoughts, that I ‘understood’ myself, and absolutely destroying that belief. I really did not understand my mind in the slightest.
You are trapped in a spell. This is the normal mind before any training in meditation. You don’t realise it, but for your whole life you have been lost in thought, without knowing necessarily that you are thinking.
The problem is most of our ‘default patterns of thought’ skew in a negative light. Wandering minds are unhappy minds- as a famous Neuroscience paper put it. Being scattered is not a pleasant feeling. Being focused is pleasant.
There are states of conscious experience that are available that are radically free of suffering. Full of intense joy, equanimity and free of aversion. Those states may be temporary, but over time lead to changes in traits.
If you can’t focus on your breath for 5 seconds, how can you focus on something infinitely more complex, such as grief or sadness or boredom?
What is Meditation?
Meditation is an incredibly broad term. It is like saying ‘Exercise’. It can encompass Gymnastics training to Olympic weightlifting to simply walking in the park.
There are many different techniques. However one that has gained some degree of popularity is the 2500 year old ‘Mindfulness’ meditation in the Buddhist Theravadan tradition. : Vipassana-Samatha meditation. But there are many more : in the Zen (soto) tradition. Tibetan Dgzochen practice. They all ultimately target the same root. Mindfulness mediation however is a good entry.
Mindfulness is a quality of mind that allows you to pay attention to whatever arises without being lost in the thought. It is a radically different way of relating to experience.
Instead of being lost in thought about an event, you can relate to it differently. Suppose you replay an embarrassing moment. That triggers feelings of guilt/sadness or the whole panoply of emotions available. That story then leads to another story ‘I am boring, or I am stupid’. Any sort of belief structure. That habit or pattern of thought repeated, cements itself. People can literally be angry for hours or days. People can stay angry and resentful for years against someone who has wronged them, even when it is not useful.
You are lost in a story that you are overlaying onto sensation.
What this training does, at a basic level, is it grants mental autonomy to ‘drop’ the pattern immediately. To see the thought, to observe the mind, without being lost in the stories. To see sadness or grief or joy for what it is. As sensations in the body. Or internal dialogue or imagery.
“You can drop whatever pattern you are lost in”. Instantly.
An analogy I like is this. Suppose you are waiting at the train station. A thought arises. This is like the train pulling up at the station. The default response that 99.9% of humanity experiences is that they get on the train, and are whisked away by the thought. Taken in all sorts of directions, onto new trains”. All at the mercy of the next arising thought in consciousness.
There is another option.
What this training does is. : allows you to see the train coming. And then choose not to get on. Not always. It is difficult. But suddenly having that mental autonomy, you have a radically different way of relating to experience. One with much less misery and suffering. And much more peace and contentment.
Practice produces objective changes in the brain
There is objective scientific evidence that there are structural changes in the brain of long term meditators. For example : Studies looking at monks with lifetime hours of 40,000+ show that there are changes in the pattern of brain waves with more alpha waves present. The activity in a set of structures called the ‘Default mode network’ is different. The DFMN is responsible for discursive thought that arises when you are ‘doing nothing’. It is the backdrop of your conscious experience. The DFMN is quieter in long term meditators. It doesn’t light up as much as in non-meditators
I don’t intend to make this blog post a deep dive into the literature. But there is an excellent book called ‘The Science of Meditation’ that explores some of the studies done.
But we all know this intuitively. The habits of our life have a momentum to them, forming deep grooves in the rock-beds of our psyche.
Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny
Basic training involves the ability to direct attention to some level. It gives you the tool to explore your internal world. How do thoughts arise? What is a thought? Where is it?
Through this exploration, you can come to realise the causes of ‘misery, unsatisfactoriness, discontent’. Whatever you want to call it.
At the root level, what this training allows one to do, is to experience real contentment. Not waiting for any external factor to change. But to experience contentment independent of any conditions.
As a default state, humans have evolved to be ‘discontented’. We want better things. We want to push away negative experience. We want to cling to positive experience. Evolutionarily this makes sense.
But both negative and positive experience are fleeting. Any negative experience will fade. Any positive experience will fade. Experience is ephemeral. Here one moment and gone the next. Any attempt to cling or hold on, is painful.
We go through life constantly chasing desires and pushing away negative experiences. This creates a level of ‘misery’, unsatisfactoriness, suffering. Use whatever terminology. But there is an angst. You can experience this by going on a retreat paradoxically. Just try and sit with your untrained mind for 30 minutes. Literally doing nothing. It won’t be pleasant I can promise.
Part of what this training does, is to allow you to understand desire and aversion. And then choose a middle way.
It’s like everyone is on a beach. When the tide comes in, they are running away. When the tide subsides, they are running towards it. Perpetually lost in a cycle of pushing, and pulling at experience. Wanting and not wanting.
But there is a middle way. To simply lie down on the sand and let the tide wash over you, finding joy in the experience.
Deeper Realisations : Illusory nature of the self, Impermanence, Suffering
By paying closer and closer attention to experience, there are certain aspects you can realise about consciousness.
One core of what these traditions point towards is the selfless nature of experience. More accurately, the self as we think of it, is not what it seems.
If you’ve had any training in neuroscience. This is obvious to you, at least from an intellectual standpoint. We are hallucinating our reality. The brain is a virtual reality headset constructing reality using data from our sense organs. And with that, there really no ‘unchanging self’.
There is no soul. No unchanging self. No constant unchanging entity you call ‘You’. There is a constant flux of change. Your cells are constantly dividing. There is no ‘place in the brain’ that houses the self. The brain can instead be seen as a boardroom with various subminds vying for conscious experience. You are literally not the same person as you were once you finish reading this sentence. For example, the person you are without a cup of coffee in the morning, and the person you are with a coffee, are different are they not in how they react?
Furthermore from physics, we know that we are not ‘independent’. We are deeply interconnected. Where is the ‘self’ in the collection of atoms that compose you. Are you your body? Are you the brain? ‘You’ really are nowhere to be found.
But of course, you feel like a self at the moment. There is a narrative structure to your experience. You went to school in Bedford. You like Greek style yogurt. You look like ‘this’. But if you look closely, can see a narrative arising and passing away. You can dissolve the feeling that ‘you are behind your head’.
We actually lose our sense of self a lot I think without realising it. Imagine those moments in life, where you were truly immersed in the experience. Probably some of the most joyous experiences in your life. There was no projection of self referential thought. ‘You’ forgot you existed. There was just total immersion.
The fact is, you can see this inherent lack of self, lack of centre, as easily as you can see your blindspot. It’s not a matter of ‘progressing’ or ‘becoming a better meditator’. There is no ‘enlightenment’ where all your psychological problems dissolve and you permanently become a superior being. That is nonsense. People go their entire life chasing this notion of enlightenment, without realising that it is right on the surface.
You can see the inherent lack of self. And in that, there is a tremendous unity. It’s hard to describe. People can experience this when they take psychedelics. It’s like, there is really no centre to experience. There is just the arising and passing away of phenomena. And where you are, there is just the universe. An intense feeling of interconnectedness.
Please don’t take this as the truth. But as an avenue to explore yourself. Some Zen teachers famously were quite ‘violent’ in their objection to theorising, encouraging instead to simply sit and explore.
It is a hypothesis you can test. There are a set of techniques that allow you to explore your internal experience, and see this for yourself. It is not mystical, it is not magical. But it is strange and profound, and deeply liberating.
My life is radically different.
Abhishek before meditation was lost in thought — 100% of the time.
Abhishek after learning meditation — sometimes isn’t.
The different between those is vast.
Ultimately, it is about understanding your mind. Coming from a point of curiosity. This is what I think ‘Spirituality’ is. Thomas Metzinger, a philosopher – articulates this well in his essay : ‘Spirituality and Intellectual Honesty’.
Science is an exploration of the external world coming coming from a place of questioning. The telescope is an instrument we can use to discern this external reality.
Spirituality is an exploration of the internal subjective world coming from a place of questioning. Meditation is a tool we can use to greater discern this internal reality. It sharpens the faculty of attention.
There is much more to be said on this topic. But reading and experiencing are vastly different. One is intellectual. The other is practical. But for some further exploration, I’ve put a list of resources for myself too, to re-read and digest.
I can’t recall all the resources and books I’ve explored in the past decade. But a few stand out as being influential.
Sam Harris is one of my favourite humans. Initially a philosophy major. Then spent several years exploring in Asia, spending a total of 2 years in silent retreats. Then came back to do a Neuroscience pHD. Author. Articulate (but monotone in a good way). Discusses meditation in a secular rationalist way.
J. Krishnamurti : definitely don’t read him first. He didn’t make sense to me, until I finally ‘experienced’ what the hell he was talking about. But I do love his radical stance of standing apart from all authority. ‘Truth is a pathless land’.
Alan Watts – is a great communicator of Zen
Tara Brach- another modern communicator of Buddhist philosophy
“The limits of my language mean the limits of my world
Although I disagree with Wittgenstein, he highlights the importance of language in our day to day life
The language which we use, constructs the narrative which we believe in, it conveys how you are feeling to yourself and to others. Therefore a finer, more accurate use of language, allows more information to be conveyed. You can be better understood. You can ask better questions. Ultimately you can connect.
Language is the medium we have to convert electrochemical energy in the form of thoughts, into vibrational energy in the form of speech, and then back. It’s the arguably the transmission of thought, with the added filter of being able to lie or distort thought. It’s a vital skill.
I want to explore some unspoken rules about language, that can make the way I communicate, clearer.
Use language based on the context you are in. Don’t use the word ‘epistemology’ to explain a concept to a 5 year old. In fact don’t use epistemology unless you are talking to a regular person. Use it if you are talking to a philosophy graduate.
Using fancy words, and long sentences, should only be used to the extent that it makes an idea clearer.
Words are vehicles to convey meaning. The more advanced the word, the smaller the audience will be that knows what you mean.
I tend to use long sentences. But if the same message can be conveyed with fewer words, that is better. Hemingway is a good example of this.
Pausing is better than filler words
I tend to use ‘cool’ and ‘like’ as filler words when thinking. Not always, but the default, especially if I’m nervous is to add these into speech.
In fact it just makes you appear more nervous, more uncertain, and less articulate.
It is far better to pause. It feels much longer than it is, but that pause allows you to construct a logical chain of points that in the end, make a greater impact.
Expand your vocabulary
I love the scene above!
Read more. Not only that, read more, and write down words that you do not know. Write that novel you’ve been meaning to write. Write incoherent blog posts. Write that twilight fan fiction that becomes 50 shades of grey.
Actually. Don’t do that last one.
I have started using ‘Anki’ decks. I add any new vocabulary which I come across, that I want to learn. You don’t need to do this, but I like being systematic.
Then use the words in your daily life. I noticed that the sole word I used to describe a good situation was, well… good. I kept saying good to everything. ‘That sounds good’. ‘You look good’. I am ‘good’.
The word good, suddenly became a catchall. Instead of using more precise words to convey feeling, it ended up just being ‘good’.
The real downside is that you can fail to communicate how you feel to yourself and those around you. You can miss opportunities for meaningful connection, and that is a real shame.
A Conversation is inversely proportional to the number of participants
“Two is company. Three is a crowd”
The more people you have in a conversation, the lower the quality of the conversation.
You end up talking about superficial topics. Everyone talks, but no-one listens. There is no real deeper connection formed. This is not a bad thing, but as an introvert, I find that unsatisfying.
I would much rather spend time with 1-2 people at most and really ask difficult questions, that you couldn’t ask in a group setting. All driven by a curiosity about human nature. I think at a core level, all human beings are the same. We are driven by desire and aversion, we want the same things. To love and be loved. It’s just that society and culture layers on top of these shared common values.
Spending time with one person, you can explore your shared humanity and values, realising that at a fundamental level, you are the same. That I think, is beautiful.
If you have nothing to say at all, then be silent. When people talk about awkward silences, I strangely don’t feel awkward at all. Maybe that’s atypical, but I don’t feel the need to fill the air constantly with words. I then tend to get labelled as being quiet and introverted, and apparently mysterious. This makes me sound much cooler and introspective than I probably am. It’s just when I have nothing to say, I don’t say anything. Saves a lot of mental bandwidth.
Learn a foreign language
“Those who know nothing of foreign languages know nothing of their own”
I think the above statement is probably exaggerated. But the point is, there are 1000’s of languages. Learn one you will use.
Not even white lies. There is a fantastic little book written by Sam Harris called ‘Lying’, that details why all lying is ultimately harmful.
Worth a read. If you want mental peace, control over yourself rather than others and internal silence, don’t lie.
Good writers tend to intersperse long sentences with shorter ones. This creates flow. Then once in a while, they go for a dangerously long and convoluted sentence, one in which you can’t really sense the end or the beginning anymore, it’s just a cacophony of words that if done properly, is immensely gratifying. Then you can return back to short.
The point is, using sentences of the same length can convey monotony. But using longer and shorter sentences creates flow.
Most of these blog posts really have no defined structure. They just tend to be a menagerie of ideas about a topic that I end up thinking about on Sunday mornings, and then solidify into sentences.
Thanks for reading to this point is you are still here.
Future Abhishek, don’t use the word ‘epistemology’ in front of a five year old. Please.
I want to explore my view on what success and failure mean.
As always, with language it comes down to semantics. We all mean something different when we talk about success. Everyone is viewing the world through their own filter.
What is important, is to examine what your definition is. Otherwise you can be unconsciously influenced and just wholesale adopt the definitions of others
A few definitions that may be possible
* Make a ton of money
* Have a high status career
* Fulfil all your desires
* Be a moral/good person
* Help people
There are many definitions, and they are all individual.
But success tends to be a way of saying that you’ve fulfilled whatever desires you have. Failure means you haven’t.
What’s wrong with success = fulfilling all your desires?
Suppose you fulfill all your desires. You’ve been incredibly fortunate (or unfortunate!). You’ve made money, have a high status job, even have a loving caring family. You might have struggled, been through mental breakdowns, destroyed relationships. You’ve built this edifice. You’re the top
But… you haven’t realised that you will have to climb back down.
But you haven’t realised that its impermanent. It’s all just wooden scaffolding, and one day it will all burn down.
I swear I’m not a nihilist. I’m the opposite. (I’m rationally optimistic.)
Maybe a parable will help. This is a Taoist story
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “May be,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “May be,” replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “May be,” answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “May be,” said the farmer.
The point is. Life is inherently full of loss and gain. What comes around goes around.
I’ve internalised this so deeply, that I always instinctively question any praise or criticism. Default thought that comes up is “Is that so?”.
If you choose to define success and failure that way and cling to it, then it causes a great deal of misery.
What’s the alternative?
In all things have no preferences
I don’t tend to think of ‘success’ or ‘failure’ anymore. A more adaptive and useful framing is ‘learning point’.
There is no good or bad, only thinking makes it so. Reality just is. It’s just when our judgement ‘module’ comes online, that suddenly things are deemed good or bad.
You can see this in meditation. You might have this incredible pain in your knee while sitting. You’re struggling, resisting. All because you are ‘thinking’ without knowing you are thinking. Then suddenly you ‘see’ the thought, ‘this is bad’. And that awareness itself, just dissolves the struggle. Immediately. It becomes raw sensation, with ‘thought’ overlaid on top of it. Thinking without knowing you are thinking is the root. It can dissolve it instantly with awareness.
Events are largely up to your interpretation. Loss is not ‘bad’. It is just loss. Gain is not ‘good’. It is just gain.
This way of seeing, I realise is not the norm in society. I look at other people and kind of think they’re definition is weird (maybe I’m the weird one) and it causes a lot of misery.
Fortunately this view has been articulated in Eastern philosophies (and Western stoicism), which is why I immediately connected with them. They articulate it a lot better than me…
But I can tell you its pretty damn peaceful, and paradoxically I’m more effective with basically no ‘stress’.
Desire is not bad… but clinging to it without realising it will change can be unpleasant
Desire is inevitable.
Obviously we all have basic desires for food, shelter etc
But if you haven’t noticed, we also have a desire for security. A desire that things will remain as they are. That we will be untouched by grief, sorrow, loss.
We desire security in an inherently insecure changing world. Expectation and reality collide.
We want one side of the coin: gain, ‘success’, ‘money’. But we don’t want the other.
So we cling to desire and push against loss. Without realising that what goes up must also come down. I encapsulate this into the well known aphorism:
‘Desire is suffering’.
It’s that clinging to one side of the coin, without realising that one must accept both.
So how do we think about desire?
Be aware of desires
Be aware of whatever desires you have. Because any desire you have is basically saying : I refuse to be content until this is satisfied.
So don’t have too many! Especially the small ones, like desiring someone to be slightly different because you don’t like something about them, or desiring better weather etc.
Don’t have small desires that accumulate and subtly make life unsatisfactory. Have larger desires.
What are my desires?
Thought this would be a useful exercise to think about.
I have desires in life. Things ‘I’ want.
* Large family
* Time and financial independence
I think that’s it…
Maybe I’ll get them. Maybe I won’t. But neither is good or bad…
This blog is becoming fun, because I can explore some counterintuitive views that I’ve had for a long time!
The whole point of this blog is to look back in 5 years time, and reassess. It’s fun to look at how one has changed.
There are no get rich quick schemes. Only sound financial habits compounded over decades
I’m writing this for reference for myself in the future. Will update as I go along.
This is not intended to be a catchall. Just a basic primer, and rules to think about wealth. A reminder to make sure I’m not making any huge mistakes. Seems to be on track at the moment…
I’ll make a list of resources at the end for reference future Abhishek.
1. Keep a budget.
You should know how much you are spending and where.
2. Spend less than you earn
Simple, but many don’t follow this because of rule number 1. You want to live below your means. I used to be a big fan of Diogenes who famously lived in a barrel. But I think maybe aiming for a slightly higher standard would be ok…
3. Insure against disaster
You have to mitigate against Black Swan events. Life Insurance, Critical Illness Insurance, Income Insurance, Home Insurance.
4. Clear Debt
Not relevant at the moment for me. I intend to keep it this way.
5. Have financial goals
e.g. ‘Buy a flat in London’ or ‘Semi-retire at age 50 with a £3000 per month lifestyle’. The goals vary for individuals, families and at different stages of your life.
6. Invest Wisely
Investing vs Saving Definitions
Savings : Keeping Money in ‘cash products’ in a liquid form. ’Less volatile’ . Savings is for short term financial goals. Likely to be used in the next 3 years
Investing : Putting Money into a place that accrues interest. ‘More volatile’ e.g. Stocks, Property, Gold, Vintage Wine, Pokemon Cards. Lots of things. Investing is for long term financial goals. 5-10-20-30+ years.
Money depreciates over time in the bank due to inflation. Inflation is where things you buy get more expensive over time. Therefore money loses its ‘purchasing power’ In 2018, the average inflation rate in UK was 2.5% If you left money in the bank, you technically lost 2.5% of its value.
This is why you should invest. You should also have money in savings accounts for short term goals. Do both.
Time in the market is a better predictor for returns
Start investing early with the intention to hold for the long term.
Thanks to compound interest (8th wonder of the world), wealth accrues.
Become Wealthy through Owning Assets
You want to earn with your mind, rather than with your time (@naval)
It’s hard to get wealthy working a job. Because ultimately you are trading time for money. Being paid by the hour is not a recipe for wealth.
To get wealthy you need to own assets.
Assets allow you to earn while you are sleeping. The lever connecting input and output are disconnected. It’s not a 1:1 ratio either
Examples of Assets
Owning/Renting out a house
Owning/Investing in a business
Owning Gold, Vintage Cars, etc
Investing in Stocks and Shares
So any money you earn whilst working a job, try to put that into assets., rather than status boosting endeavours (e.g. super fancy clothes).
Not that status games are intrinsically bad. They are just zero sum and kind of boring. Wealth is a better game to play.
There are loads of asset classes you can invest in. I don’t intend to go into detail in this blog post.
But as a rule, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Diversify your assets
Don’t go all in. You want to aim to ‘not lose’ money.
Identify your risk tolerance
Depends on your financial goals and age. It’s individual. Make sure you are aware.
Conclusion : It’s a Grind
Be a long term thinker. Be aware of behaviour biases (loss aversion, confirmation bias, hindsight bias, too many…)
Passive rather than active approach. Aim not to lose money.
Money won’t buy contentment or peace. That’s a different skillset. It will buy a degree of freedom though.
Remember money is a tool. Not an end in itself. You leverage the tool for experiences , for specific knowledge (hiring a plumber, gardener) and ultimately to trade for time, so you can gain a level of financial freedom.
There has been a recent tech-backlash by people in the industry. Issues to do with attention manipulation, the advertising model and ‘the race to the bottom of the brainstem’ led by prominent technologists such as Tristan Harris
A summary of the literature :
Social media is designed to deliberately maximise time on site and be addictive. You have top level psychologists working at these companies to ensure this. Examples : Youtube ‘watch next’, Facebook’s colour scheme, Pull to refresh, Snapchats’ stories features. This is discussed in several books.
Several studies are being released correlating excessive social media use with mental health issues.
The explosion of fake news. The word of 2018 was ‘fake news’
Algorithmic selection of data resulting in echo chambers and promotion of confirmation bias
Algorithmic selection of posts to promote outrage rather than nuanced discussion
Outbreaks of violence driven by false information
Advertising model misaligning incentives
You basically have an algorithmic supercomputer pointed at your brain trying to get you to maximise time on site
Social media is getting a beating. But I think it is here to stay.
I want to explore if there is a way to use social media effectively. The internet and technology has democratised the tools of distribution. You can literally write code, write thought, create content without going through an intermediary. I think this is a net positive. But as with any new technology, there are growing pains.
These are just a set of rules and thoughts about using social media sensibly.
1. Understand that Nuance is Lost :
Use social media to link to longer form content, videos and discussions
The click bait, 280 character, medium can only convey so much information. It is prone to misintereptation. People posting opinions without any real discussion. Just broadcasting a particular viewpoint.
This just leads to shouting without any real discussion. The solution is instead to use it to maximise serendipity by linking to external content.
Content like blogs, videos, essays etc.
On the internet, there are some incredibly smart people making content. Some of the best educational resources are on YouTube. The library of Alexandria is at your finger tips, it’s just lost in a sea of noise. It’s like we are living in Borge’s infinite library on the internet. We just need to separate the signal from the noise.
2.Careful of Who You Follow
You are the average of the 5 people you associate with most.
Most of your views actually come from people to follow and admire. Either consciously or unconsciously you select pieces of information and choose to believe it rather than reasoning from first principles.
This is adaptive. If you were to reason everything from first principles you simply would not have enough time. For example, with the Big Bang, I take that as a given theory because I respect the work physicists do. But I couldn’t explain it from first principles. A lot of my beliefs I just take at face value.
So knowing this, who you choose to listen to is of paramount importance. You tend to simply adopt the values and habits of those around you. If you surround yourself with hard working people, it just ends up rubbing off on you.
I can’t tell you who to listen to. But always be skeptical, and where-ever you can, try reason from first principles.
3.Switch it off
Use tools like Screen-time to limit time on site. Deliberately make time to check it rather than impulse checking
Apple is my favourite. To call me a fanboy is an understatement. Apple don’t make their money off time spent on their devices. They simply make money from selling devices. They have no incentive in the race for attention.
They’ve shown that they are thinking about these topics, with the release of tools like Screen time. You can limit the amount of time you spend on the sites, and you can schedule ‘downtime’ where you can’t access the app.
They have also made privacy a priority. For all these reasons, I’ve literally never owned an android phone. I went straight from flip phone to iPhone.
Regulate how much you spend on these sites. So many times, I’ve been lost in YouTube. I wake up and realise I’ve spent 3 hours watching funny cat videos. The algorithm plays me like a fiddle. Get some autonomy back, switch it off when you don’t want to be distracted.
4.Create rather than Consume
Use social media as a way to create and share rather than consume
It’s really easy to consume content. Much harder to create it.
I think you learn a lot more from creating and doing rather than just reading or watching. If you want to learn how to code, go build something. If you want to learn how to take good photographs, start taking photos. If you want to learn how to make videos, go make a video. If you want to write, write something. Don’t just passively consume media.
One project of mine is to become a better writer, so I started this. I found I was just reading other people’s blogs or books. This is useful, but I learn infinitely more reasoning through topics myself, rather than just watching someone reason it through themselves.
Obviously you start off bad. But you learn through doing. For example :
Instead of using instagram to follow ‘influencers’ (only recently learnt that such a thing exists), you can post your own photos. I really admire Instagram and how they’ve democratised the art of photography. Anyone can take photos now, and post them. You can learn by doing.
5.Don’t trade the mind for the moment
Switch off or don’t look at your phone when talking in real life. You want to 100% be present
I love computers. I pretty much spent my childhood on computers. But the computer didn’t follow me around in my pocket all day, providing limitless entertainment back then. It wasn’t a competition between engaging with reality and engaging with a computer.
When talking with someone, don’t look at your phone unless showing something etc. This is basic etiquette.
6.Use tech to educate, not distract
I can either pull out my phone and habitually look at Instagram or Facebook and mindlessly scroll.
Or I can habitually look at ‘Medium’ or the Kindle app, or Instapaper or certain subreddits, or insightful Twitter accounts, or listen to audiobooks or podcasts and watch educational YouTube videos
You can literally read the majority of written word, the stored collective wisdom of civilisations and generations on a black rectangle in your pocket. This is magic.
You can choose how to use Tech. It is simply a tool.
Conclusion : Techno-optimistism
I think social media can be used more judiciously, as a way to follow people you really admire, and to keep in touch with friends and family.
The danger lies in not thinking about how you use a tool.
Hopefully I’ll rethink and revise some of my views on the topic in the future and update!